Relationship Issue

Conflicts among people who express outlooks of antithetical epochs often happen in the society and there be lots of situations when even members of the same family who are supposed to be the closest with each other, support opposite visions of the world. However, misunderstanding can al bearings be overcome and w gird relations achieved as long as people bewilder efforts into that.Flannery OConnors give Everything that Rises Must Converge deals with the relationship of a take and her parole and represents contradictions between them which arise from their different outlooks on reality in which they are alive and lay downs how they are unable to overcome them. Julian is a recent college graduate who lives with his solicitous widowed beat who has put her whole manner to call on the carpet him well and give him good education. The conflict of Julian with his buzz off starts because she has a vision of life which is completely different from his.Julians pay off lived acc ording to the practice of laws of her own fantasy world outside of which he had never seen her set foot. She built that brusk world for herself, not realizing that times rich person changed and she needed to adjust to them. She couldnt keep living in her little world forever and some time crisis was going to occur. Every time Julian made some remark about their present life and that it was different from what his find had before, she only started remembering ancient times and past wealthy life which she used to give Your great-grandfather was a former regulator of this state Your grandfather was a prosperous land-owner.Your grand arrive was a Godhigh. However, its impossible to blame her for that- she cannot change, those ideas are too firmly fixed in her mind and Julian should provoke accepted them alone he doesnt even try to that. No matter how much Julian tries to convert her that reality is completely different from those memories, she never wants to listen to him. Ho wever, instead of marching his give with respect and letting her excite some weaknesses manage any other person, he gets mad at her all the time.Everything what his mother says agitates Julian and he is unable to talk to his mother without a feeling of frustration. Even though he takes her to a reducing class and listens to boththing what she says, the feeling of irritation doesnt leave him and he never feels at peace. His rude attitude towards everything what his mother says shows in most of the discussions in the novel. Will you look around you, he said tensely, and see where you are now? and he swept his arm jerkily out to indicate the neighborhood, which the growing darkness at least made less dingy. Julian is mad at almost everything what his mother says. It becomes clear that as long as Julian and his mother have different views on things, they will never be able to slip by peacefully and they will alship canal have arguments. What really saves them from stopping conf abulation at all, is calmness of Julians mother and her trying to command unkind words which her son says. Even though they express different outlooks and despite any bad features she has, she does show concern about her son and she sincerely hopes for his happy future.Julians mother is certainly credulous in that because there is hardly any future ahead of Julian but she believes in that like a child and she made sacrifices for him The law of her life was to sacrifice herself for him after she had first created the necessity to do so by making a mess of things All of her life had been a seek to act like a Chestny and to give him everything she thought a Chestny ought to have without the goods a Chestny ought to have One of the main points on which Julian and his mother contradict are issues of racism. In Julians point of view, raw people have a right to do everything just like white people.However, his mother doesnt share his point of view because she was brought up in a diffe rent society and believes they are inferior. This is again the pledge of her living in the past when she had a ignominious nurse and whom she love but adopted her much lower than herself. This attitude can be high hat seen in the episode when Julian and his mother get on the charabanc. The bus is half-filled and when mother looks around, she sees only white people and becomes happy. She even says to the madam academic session next to her I see we have the bus to ourselves. Julian couldnt stand it when his mother said that and again felt shame for her words.She does her outflank to show her bad attitude towards black people and doesnt consider them to be her equal. When a black man comes into the bus and another lady changes her seat to get away from him, Julians mother approves of that and thinks this is the way it should be done. The attitude of his mother obligates Julian get thoughts of punishing her which show to us that he extremely cruel because a son cannot treat his mother like that. Julian thought he might make friends with some distinguished Negro professor or lawyer and meet him home to spend the evening in order to make his mother feel miserable.He points to his mother that a black lady seance in the bus has the same hat as she does and wants to make a point that black people can do everything just like white people, they are people of the same kind- but his mother doesnt understand that. However, the worst lesson which she gets is when she wants to give a coin to the little black boy and suffers from that because the boy dont take nobodys pennies and this painful present moment leads to the end of the novel. In my opinion, it was possible for Julian and his mother to find ways to understand each other if the son at least put some efforts into that.Despite of all his mothers faults, Julian should have been more patient with her and he realizes that in the end of the novel when he understands he has lost her. He is not a saint himself a nd since every human has weaknesses, he should have been more loving and kind with his mother because she gave birth to him and sacrificed many things for him. When he understands he remained alone, he realizes the whole horror of his situation- that he is completely lost in the world without his mother but there is nothing what he can change about that anymore, so the extent of his self-deception is fully confirmed.